Welcome home!

Now, the formula is complete, and the joy is beyond words. You are probably exhausted after the first few days, especially since you stayed away from the place and the people who give you peace. But, let me tell you that it will pass... and the fatigue, but also these wonderful moments will flow like the sand from the hourglass. That's why I urge you to look around, to look at the arms that have now become your child's safety net, to look at your husband with love and to be thankful for everything you live.

Give yourself time to rest! Every time the little one sleeps, try to close at least one eye (I know you'll want to use the other one to keep an eye on him). You will need energy for the next month (and for the rest of the years, but that's another story).

Why did I only refer to the first month?

Because it is so important for the whole family! It is the month in which the first memories with the baby are born, in which the routine will be completely changed or adapted according to the needs of the little one and in which you will go from ecstasy to sadness in just a few moments.

I will briefly write about all these changes in the article below. I want to provide you with as clear information as possible, which will help you when you feel that it is difficult for you to continue.

  1. Everything will be perfect!

Exact! I read your thoughts! "What lie is this?"

Truly, the statement is far from being realistic. Do you know what the truth is?

It will be hard! There will be moments when you will want to pack your bags and run to the mountains or to the sea, it depends on what you prefer.

There will be moments of helplessness, of tears that will flow down the cheek, of dark circles that will deepen as one more sleepless night accumulates.

Maybe there will be situations of pity (eg the child falls out of the crib) or of anger (when fatigue sets in and when you are overwhelmed by worries).

All this comes as a package, as a bonus to the bouquets of flowers and balloons with "Welcome!" that you received from your loved ones.

How can you pass more easily?

Patiently. Think that it is just a stage in your life. You need to go through it, to get to know each other better, to know how you react to stress, to get closer and learn to be a team.

Try to give yourself time too. To stay alone, to walk, to read...

Another thing that can help you is to talk to other mothers about how you feel. You will see that they also go through similar states. You can support and encourage each other.

And remember: tomorrow is the new day!

  1. If you don't breastfeed him, he won't be healthy!

Try to plug your ears a little and block everything that comes from the outside. Then listen to yourself. Listen to your intuition and conscience! You will see that the result is completely different.

Most of the time, a mother is assaulted with all kinds of unsolicited "advice" from so-called experts. All this puts an unbearable pressure on his shoulders.

It's the same with breastfeeding. I know you are making every effort to breastfeed your baby, but maybe there will be moments when you will not succeed. Or maybe he will not want to attach properly to the breast. And you will have to use the formula.

It's okay! Judge yourself less! He is neither the first nor the last baby to be raised with formula. And he will be healthy and strong!

The idea is for you to be at peace with whatever decision you make. To feel peace and not a burden.

Of course, breastfeeding creates that magical bond between mother and child. But what do you do when this special moment turns into a stressful and difficult one for both of you?

I think that the bottle can also bring you closer. When you hold the bottle, let it grab your little finger. What a wonderful feeling!

Either way, your souls are bound forever!

  1. "Month of open doors"

I know that the loved ones are well-intentioned when they want to visit the little one. You just have to remind them that you need a period of accommodation and privacy.

The "month of open doors" to your home can be postponed until you are ready.

Now, priority is sleep and time spent together, in the restricted formula.

As I wrote to you at the beginning, my advice is to sleep as much as possible. Your body needs to recover after giving birth and regain its strength.

Try to leave the little one in the crib, although I know you would always like to feel him on your chest.

You can use a version that attaches to your bed, such as those on our website https://camerabebelusului.ro/collections/patuturi-co-sleeping . Thus, the distance between you decreases and you can join your hands during sleep.

  1. "Is the husband still around?"

I know that it is possible to ask too much, but do everything you can so that you also remember your husband.

In the few free moments you will have, invite him to join you for a discussion or watch a movie together.

Forget for a while that you are parents and remember that first of all you are husband and wife.

The tendency of many couples is to place the child at the center of their Universe and forget about each other.

It is true that he becomes a priority for you, but your relationship must also be nourished with love and quality time.

If you have the opportunity to leave him for an hour with a grandfather, it's wonderful! You quickly equip yourself and go for a walk under the starry sky or for an ice cream, to fool the Sun.

Whatever you decide to do, be together! You will see how much it will help you in the future!

I would have a lot more to share with you, but it's time to send you a warm hug and tell you that you are a unique mother! Avoid comparisons with other mothers as much as you can!

You are everything you need, and your child and husband are blessed to have you by their side.

Enjoy! Live! Love it!