Together and by your Baby's side!

Why?

Because both mother and father have a very well-defined role when it comes to the birth of a child.

Of course, most articles are addressed exclusively to the mother, because in many situations she is the one who informs herself and then updates the father.

Nevertheless, I thought I'd offer both of you a guiding handbook, to serve as a source of inspiration on your new journey.

 

Open your arms, embrace her, and close them again!


Dear future dad, she needs you at this time! She is going through many physical, but especially emotional, changes.

She needs to feel your embrace, to feel that your arms offer her security and comfort in moments when tears begin to flow incessantly.

You don't need to say anything. Just be there with your whole being! Wrap her body in the mantle of your love!

Thus, you will ensure that the baby is also calm! They will probably send signals: a little kick or a hand movement will be enough for you to know that they are happy to feel you so close to each other.


Dividing tasks – your lifebuoy


I know you feel overwhelmed by the multitude of tasks you have to accomplish during this pre-birth period. That's why I want to ask you to stop for a moment and look at your husband.

Do you see him standing silently, huddled in a corner of the room, waiting for a cry of helplessness?

It's time to do it! Let him do something too! Involve him in the decisions you make!

Whether we're talking about the maternity bag, the shopping you still need to do, or arranging the room where you will welcome the baby, delegate tasks that he can easily fulfill.

You'll see how quickly the atmosphere in the house will change when you do things together!

For example, if you were the one who chose a stroller model, just because you know you'll use it most often, then let him handle the assembly.

Take him with you to the stores and choose baby's first clothes together. You'll see his face light up! Even if an hour later, the sighing will start!

At the same time, you can let him handle the family finances. You will have other priorities, and that would be another headache.

As I said above, dividing tasks will be the lifebuoy in crisis situations or those that require a very high consumption of resources.


Mommy, Daddy, learn to help me!


Hold hands tightly! Think that they will be responsible for a new life!

Now, I don't want to scare you, but I want you to be aware of how much you need information.

From reliable sources, of course! Not just from your mother-in-law, neighbor, friend, etc.

Consult specialists to learn what baby care involves. Participate together in childcare courses, read books specially designed for parents, listen to podcasts featuring guests who inspire confidence, contact a neonatologist or pediatrician in your area and ask them the questions that trouble you...

A course I urge you to take part in is first aid! This really shouldn't be missing from your to-do list.

It is essential to have the necessary knowledge in a critical situation such as when the baby chokes or in the unfortunate case when you need to perform resuscitation maneuvers.

Knowing how to care for a wound, how to apply a dressing correctly, how to react in cases of fever episodes that risk triggering seizures...

It's good to accumulate all this information, with the aim of accessing it when needed.

Also, a lactation consultant could help you, dear mommy, to get rid of your fears regarding this aspect. It's better to prepare in advance and know exactly what to do when the little one cries because they want to feed at your breast.

They can also be helpful to you, dear dad, to show you ways you can support your wife.

For example, if you notice that it's difficult for her to hold the little one in her arms anymore, because her arm has gone numb while holding it up, you can quickly bring her a nursing pillow. This way, she will relax, and breastfeeding will go much smoother.

The power of the word "together" is evident in this case too!


Instead of projecting the child's image, work on yourselves!


Stop all projections about your baby!

Whether they will be fussy or mostly quiet, whether they will sleep like an angel or be like a night owl with their eyes open most of the time, whether they will have unbearable colic or a less noisy tummy...

All these consume your energy before the baby is born, and when you truly need it, you will already be exhausted.

My advice is to focus on strengthening the relationship between you, because it is the foundation upon which the relationship with the baby will be built.

Work on your fears, on how you externalize certain frustrations, fix what you think is dysfunctional at this moment and don't postpone it until after the birth.

If you have emotional stability, then you will be able to manage any situation you haven't accounted for much better.

No matter how the baby is, parents must be in balance and unity!


So, my dears, I hope you pick up what is useful for you from this guide and apply it in your family.

We all need guidance, so we don't get lost along the way!

Bring peace into your home and hearts, and the little one will multiply it!

In gratitude, they will offer you a piece of Heaven. You just have to be willing to receive it and enjoy it... TOGETHER!