Together will be the most frequently encountered word in this article.
Why?
Because both mother and father have a very well-defined role when discussing the birth of a child.
Of course, most of the articles are addressed exclusively to the mother, because in many situations she is the one who informs herself and then puts the father on the topic as well.
However, I thought of offering you both a guiding guide, to serve as a source of inspiration in your new journey.
Open your arms, embrace her and close them back!
Dear future dad, she needs you right now! He goes through many physical changes, but especially emotional ones.
He needs to feel your embrace, to feel that your arms offer him security and comfort in the moments when the tears start to flow non-stop.
You don't need to say anything. Just be there with all your being! Wrap his body in the cloak of your love!
Thus, you will make sure that the baby is calm too! He will probably send you signals: a kick or a hand kick will be enough to let you know that he is happy to feel so close to each other.
Sharing tasks – your lifeline
I know that you feel overwhelmed by the accumulation of tasks that you have to fulfill in this period, preceding the birth. That's why I want to ask you to stop and look at your husband.
Do you see him sitting silently, huddled in a corner of the room, waiting for a cry of helplessness?
It's time to do it! Let him do something too! Involve him in the decisions you make!
Whether we are talking about the maternity luggage, the shopping you still have to do or the arrangement of the room where you will receive the baby, delegate tasks that he can easily fulfill.
You will see how quickly the situation in the house will change when you do things together!
For example, if you were the one who chose a stroller model, just because you know that you will use it most often, then let him take care of the installation.
Take him with you to the shops and choose the baby's first clothes together. You will see how his face brightens! Even if an hour later the sigh will set in!
At the same time, you can let him handle the family finances. You will have other priorities, and that would be one more headache.
As I said above, the division of tasks will be the savior in crisis situations or in those that involve a very high consumption of resources.
Mom, dad, learn to help me!
Hold hands! Think that they will be responsible for a new life!
Now, I don't want to scare you, but I would like you to be aware of how much information you need.
From reliable sources, of course! Not only from the mother-in-law, neighbor, friend, etc.
Call the specialists to learn what caring for a baby entails. Take part in childcare courses together, learn from books specially designed for parents, listen to podcasts featuring guests who will inspire confidence, contact a neonatologist or a pediatrician in your area and ask them the questions that will bother you. .
A course that I urge you to take part in is the first aid course! This really shouldn't be missing from the list of things to do.
It is essential to have the necessary knowledge in a limited situation such as the one in which the baby is drowning or in the unfortunate case when you have to perform resuscitation maneuvers.
Knowing how to take care of a wound, how to apply the dressing correctly, how to react in case of episodes of fever that risk triggering convulsions...
It is good to accumulate all this information, in order to access it when needed.
Also, a lactation consultant could help you, dear mother, get rid of your fears about this aspect. Better to prepare in advance and know exactly what to do when the little one cries that he wants to feed on your chest.
He can be useful to you too, dear father, to show you methods by which you can support your wife.
For example, if you notice that it is difficult for him to hold the little one, because his hand went numb while it was in the air, you can quickly bring him a nursing pillow . Thus, she will relax, and breastfeeding will be much easier.
The power of the word "together" can be seen in this case too!
Instead of projecting the child's image, work with yourself!
Stop any projection about your baby!
That he will be whiny or he will be mostly quiet, that he will sleep like an angel or be like a night bird with his eyes open all the time, that he will have unbearable colic or that he will have a less noisy tummy...
All this will consume the energy before the baby is born, and when you really need it, you will already be exhausted.
My advice is to focus on strengthening the relationship between you, because it is the foundation on which the relationship with the baby will be built.
Work with your fears, with the way you express certain frustrations, fix what you think is dysfunctional at this moment and don't postpone it for the period after the birth.
If you will have stability from the point of view of the emotional side, then you will be able to manage much better any situation that you do not take into account.
Regardless of how the baby will be, the parents must be in balance and in unity!
So, my dears, I hope you can glean what is useful for you from this guide and apply it in your family.
We all need guidance, so we don't lose our way!
Bring peace to your home and your hearts, and the little one will multiply it!
As thanks, he will offer you a piece of Heaven. You just have to be willing to receive it and enjoy it... TOGETHER!
