Together will be the most frequently used word in this article.

Why?

Because both the mother and the father have a very well-defined role when discussing the birth of a child.

Of course, most of the articles are addressed exclusively to the mother, because in many situations she is the one who gets informed and then brings the father into the topic.

However, I thought I would offer you both a guiding guide, to serve as a source of inspiration on your new journey.

Open your arms, embrace her, and close them back!


Dear future dad, she needs you right now! She's going through many physical, but especially emotional, changes.

He needs to feel your embrace, to feel that your arms offer him safety and comfort in the moments when his tears start to flow without stopping.

You don't need to say anything. Just be there with your whole being! Wrap his body in the mantle of your love!

This way, you'll make sure your baby is calm too! He'll probably send you signals: a kick or a pat will be enough to let you know he's happy to feel so close to you.


Task sharing – your lifeline


I know you feel overwhelmed by the amount of tasks you have to complete in this period leading up to the birth. That's why I want to ask you to stop for a moment and look at your husband.

Do you see him sitting silently, hiding in a corner of the room, waiting for a cry of helplessness?

It's time to do it! Let him do something too! Involve him in the decisions you make!

Whether we're talking about maternity luggage, the shopping you still need to do, or arranging the room where you'll welcome your baby, delegate tasks that he or she can easily complete.

You will see how quickly the mood in the house will change when you do things together!

For example, if you were the one who chose a stroller model, just because you know you'll use it most often, then let him handle the assembly.

Take him with you to the shops and choose your baby's first clothes together. You'll see how his face brightens up! Even if an hour later the sigh will set in!

At the same time, you can let him handle the family finances. You will have other priorities, and that would be another extra headache.

As I said above, dividing tasks will be the lifeline in crisis situations or those that involve a very high consumption of resources.


Mom, Dad, learn to help me!


Hold your hands tightly! Think that they will be responsible for a new life!

Now, I don't want to scare you, but I would like you to be aware of how much you need information.

From reliable sources, of course! Not just from your mother-in-law, neighbor, friend, etc.

Turn to specialists to learn what caring for a baby entails. Attend childcare classes together, read books specially designed for parents, listen to podcasts featuring guests you trust, contact a neonatologist or pediatrician in your area and ask them the questions that are bothering you...

One course I urge you to take is first aid! This really shouldn't be missing from your to-do list.

It is essential to have the necessary knowledge in a critical situation such as when a baby drowns or in the unfortunate event when you have to perform resuscitation maneuvers.

Knowing how to care for a wound, how to apply a dressing correctly, how to react in the event of fever episodes that risk triggering convulsions...

It's good to accumulate all this information, in order to access it when needed.

Also, a lactation consultant could help you, dear mom, get rid of your fears regarding this aspect. It is better to prepare in advance and know exactly what to do when your little one cries for feeding at your breast.

It can be useful to you too, dear dad, to show you ways to support your wife.

For example, if you notice that she's having a hard time holding her little one because her hand went numb while holding it in the air, you can quickly bring her a nursing pillow . This will help her relax and make breastfeeding much easier.

The power of the word "together" is evident in this case too!


Instead of projecting the image of the child, work with yourself!


Stop any projection regarding your baby!

That he will be whiny or will be mostly quiet, that he will sleep like an angel or will be like a night owl with his eyes open most of the time, that he will have unbearable colic or will have a less noisy tummy...

All of this will consume energy before the baby is born, and by the time you really need it, you will already be exhausted.

My advice is to focus on strengthening your relationship, because it is the foundation on which your relationship with your baby will be built.

Work with your fears, with the way you express certain frustrations, fix what you think is dysfunctional at this moment and don't postpone it until after the birth.

If you have emotional stability, then you will be able to better handle any situation that you don't anticipate.

No matter what the baby will be like, parents must be in balance and unity!


So, my dears, I hope you will glean what is useful to you from this guide and apply it in your family.

We all need guidance, so as not to get lost on the path!

Bring peace to your home and your hearts, and the little one will multiply it!

As a thank you, he will offer you a piece of Heaven. You just have to be willing to receive it and enjoy it... TOGETHER!